Between stimulus and response, there is a space.
In that space is our power to choose our response.
In our response lies our growth and our freedom.
Between stimulus and response, there is a space. In that space is our power to choose our response. In our response lies our growth and our freedom.
Perhaps you have a life-changing decision to make or you feel “blue,” listless, weary or dissatisfied. Many people choose therapy because they want to “fix” their difficulties, and believe that may be accomplished in a few consultative sessions. Such quick fixes do happen for some. Yet most people find therapy offers a safe environment for exploring deeply felt and long-held issues that manifest themselves in the emotions that drew them to seek therapy. Over time they grow to understand that emotions inform us. What we do with that information can propel change.
Choosing a therapist is not simply an intellectual decision. You truly must “click” with your therapist for the relationship to work. That’s why I offer a free consultation for potential clients.
As a therapist, my goal is to support and assist my clients as they become the persons they are meant to be. I use a collaborative approach to help them learn to understand their emotions. Together we work to resolve the issues that interfere with their lives. I want to help you through this process too. Contact me for a free consultation.
Only put off until tomorrow what you are willing to die having left undone.
If you are a couple seeking therapy, you may:
I believe that it is in relationship with others that we come to know ourselves.
I will help you identify problems and provide opportunities for deepening your relationship. Our work will focus on what you think is right between the two of you… and what’s not. I teach couples to hear and understand each other. I will help you recognize that very often it’s communication that’s the problem. Together we will identify negative communication patterns and change them into new, healing, healthy, connections. Once couples reconnect, partners feel safe enough to be vulnerable to the other again. That is truly when relationship growth happens.
Couples often come to me for short term counseling – somewhere between 8 to 16 sessions. Afterwards, couples who desire deeper, more rewarding partnerships continue their work with me. Others choose regular “tune-up” sessions. How long our work lasts is entirely up to each couple.
I’ve been trained in the Gottman Method (Levels 1 and 2). John Gottman has spent over forty years studying marriages and predictors of relationship success. I use the Gottman method along with other couples counseling techniques such as EFT and Imago.
I saw you were perfect,
and so I loved you.
Then I saw that you were
and I loved you even more.
Love has the power to heal individuals and relationships. I have seen this healing first-hand in my practice. As Eleanor Roosevelt said so well, “The giving of love is an education in itself.” I help each partner learn to give love again, and learn how to be loved too. Each is enlightened by this giving and receiving. Maya Angelou recognized the liberation individuals experience through such enlightenment, when she said, “In the flush of love’s light, we dare be brave. And suddenly we see that love costs all we are, and will ever be. Yet it is only love which sets us free.” That is why even serial bride Eva Gabor understood that each individual in a loving relationship triumphs when she said, “Love is a game that two can play and both win.”
When acting as a Life Coach, I help you address specific life challenges. But if you’re looking to explore your life more deeply, or if you are ready to explore your inner world then we can transition to psychotherapy, which is longer-term and often is covered by insurance.
If after eight weeks you are still looking for Life Coaching, we can continue in that vein. For example, if you feel you’d like to look at other aspects of your life that we didn’t explore (like work or family), we can examine those next. But if you’re looking to explore more deeply the aspects of your life that are anxiety, unhappiness, or if you want to explore your past – in other words, if you are ready to explore your inner world – then we can transition to psychotherapy, which is longer-term and is often covered by insurance.
Coaching sessions are one hour in length, except for the first session, which might last up to two hours. After the first session, we meet once per week, with four sessions in the first month. They are conducted remotely at this time. Emails, phone calls, and texts in between sessions that are less than ten minutes are included in the hourly fee.
I am an out-of-network provider and will provide you with a bill that you can submit to your insurance company.
I was married, widowed in my forties, and in my fifties found love again with my new husband. In between I was a mother of two kids who now are adults. When my first husband died I retooled, returning to school and then working while raising my children. These experiences taught me that life goes on whether one is prepared or not.
I have learned that it is best to be prepared in all aspects of our lives. I believe that the here and now is the most important thing in the world. Sometimes, though, our past gets in the way of our here and now. Therapy has the power to intervene to relegate the past to the past and firmly establish you in the present, so that you are able to enjoy your life now.
I am an advocate of making sure my clients have the medications they need – and once stable on those meds – further growth is attainable through productive conversation. My experience as a pharmaceutical sales rep gave me an understanding of many of today’s issues related to “better living through chemistry” and their implications in our world. That same career provided me with years of experience in the corporate world. As a result I have insights into the sometimes intense challenges you might encounter at work as you build your career.
I also have a special interest in sexual issues in committed relationships and work with couples to help them get them where they want to be. I work to establish effective communication, help couples remember (or discover) why they chose each other in the first place, and help them create a resilience in the relationship that will last.